We
woke up at Casa Marmida welcomed by the sounds of the sheep and lambs the
distance. A dog ran in circles playing
as I watched the sun make its way up.
The
food the night before had been wonderful, local fare.
Caroline
got directions to a spiagga just off CostaVerde, dubbed the Dunes of Piscinas.
So,
we make our way out.
With
green everywhere, the landscape reminds me of Playa Verde in Vieques.
Winding
and curving through the hills and coasts, the paved road finally gives way to dirt,
past a creek where we park, walking the next few k to the beach, where we find
a tiki bar and the most beautiful water, surrounded by dunes, kindov like my
image of paradise.
As
if a scene from a movie, the girls and I get a drink taking in the views.
Matteo
and Fatima join us extending the conversation we’ve had for the last week.
Fatima
talks about her work in Pakistan where she supports girls and their self-determination.
“You
are not free until you have your sexual freedom,” notes Fatima, quoting from
her friend Alishba who she heard speak at the Muslimish Conference in NYC.
She’s
rejected her religion in favor of freedom.
All
too often, religion is just another form of control.
I
tell her about the Barnard Conference on Pornography and Feminism with the
debates about censorship and sexual freedom from 1981.
She
tells me about verse 4:34 of the Koran, which condones beating women.
And
efforts of activists to support girls to grow up without having to endure
forced marriages.
Specifically,
there are efforts at airports in the UK.
Girls
can’t talk without their parents.
So
those who do want to be taken back to marry carry spoons through security.
Students
just put them in their clothes before crossing through security.
When
security officers see them, that’s all they need to know.
So,
we talk, swim, enjoy a swim, and make our way back for a horseback ride.
Going
to sleep that night, we watch Room with a View, a film about a similar group
making their way through Italy.
“Something
tremendous has happened to me,” notes George to Lucy.
Something
happens to all of us here.
The
next day, we meet up for one final boat ride together, to
go
for bouf in Buggero, perhaps a swim in the grottos.
The
drive is crazy. Through town after town, windy coastal road after road, we make
our way to the once industrial mining town of Buggerro. Today the mines are closed. People come for
the waters.
Matteo
posts: “The place is eerie in a dystopian.
Half ruined mining station and half favela. But as the gateway to this pretty coast (it
promises to be quite exceptional) its worth coming… there are several pristine
still bays within a five-minute zip over by boat: Porto Flavia, cala domestica,
grottos, and ploufs and even ruins and history… Actually, I looked again and if
you go through guispini and arbus not around it….”
Famous
last words. We get stuck within the medieval quarter of Arbus, the maps send us
round and round and round, into a nether dimension, where they know nothing of
where they are taking us, careening between wedding parties on the ground, old
men sitting with their feet on the streets,
kids chatting, people going to church, everyone pour into the streets
and we’re the poor souls trying to navigate it all.
We
are about to vomit by the time we get to Buggero. But its worth it. The ride between the unspoiled costs and
geological landscapes of sedimentary rocks jetting up from the sea into the
sky, the grottos, where we swim, magnificent coasts, and s stop for a coffee at
the Pizzeria Con Forno a Leona
Ristorante con Speciality de Mare makes it worth it. All afternoon, we explore
the grottos, boat past the Pan de Zuchero and the Grotta Sardegna, the Cala
Demestica, a jelly fish stings and the day passes.
Looking
at the rocks, its an illustration of time.
We’ve
known each other since 1986. The rocks have been here for millennia.
The
bluest waters ever welcome us.
And
we remember a few of the old friends from those days three decades prior when
we first met, back in 1986. Matteo shared a
bathroom with Dad, years before these three came along.
“Are you not comfortable with the male form?” Dad would say
to Matteo as they brushed their teeth. Dad standing there naked. “No. I saw you here yesterday.”
They hung out all year long, Dad taking Matteo camping for
spring break, out to Big Bend National Park, where they slept looking at the
stars.
“He was the first adult who talked with me seriously.”
“This isn’t happening to me,” Dad screamed all year long.
Matteo can still do the imitation of Dad losing his mind.
Life is still odd for us.
“We’ve known each other for thirty years. What will we look like three decades from now
at 78? Not too bad…” if we make it.
Hopefully the conversation about sex and freedom will continue,
even then.
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